You see it yourself – nowadays, teenagers don’t have time to wait out the awkward years of puberty. Instead, they have quick life hacks at their fingertips and use them to change their appearance with make-up, filters and hair tricks. Better yet, they look good doing it.
As someone who suffered from severe acne and hormonal imbalances until the age of 25, finding love matches was only ever as successful as the level of confidence I had at the time. Which wasn’t very much. It also doesn’t help that at the time I found my true independence and boss energy, I had moved to one of the cities known to most as “hook-up central” and “Peter Pan Island.”
In a world where most people dive head-first into a speedy life, fast decisions and quick pleasures, where are the individuals who want to find true, authentic love in a slow and intimate manner?
I have no idea, but I do have a few tricks on getting you started on your journey. We’re individualists after all.
1.Manage your introverted tendencies.
The first rule of love is that you want to love. Get yourself out into the world and begin conversations with people you don’t know. If you’re shy, get on a dating app. If you’re ready, go to a nearby bar or hang-out space.
2.Fix your approach.
Neediness is a sign of the weak. When speaking with a potential candidate, focus on having fun and giving an “out.” Everyone is exhausted all of the time, make them have fun so they can blog about it later.
3.Be clear about your intentions.
The first rule of dating in LA, is that you can’t tell anyone that you want a relationship. They will run. Every time. What you can be clear about, is wanting to get to know the other person, discussing the kind of lifestyle you intend to live. If the other person is interested, the first step of dating is generally them moving into your place because “it just makes sense.”
You’ll have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your Prince Charming, let’s hope you won’t get herpes first.