If there is one thing we know about women’s pleasure, it’s that we don’t know enough about it.
Sure, it’s popular to chat about dating, orgasms and the latest sex scandals. Yet, when I ask my girlfriends the last time they pleasured themselves or for tips on having better orgasms during sex, I’m usually met with flushed giggles and nervousness. I often interpret these moments as silent inquiries for validation to show them that whatever we’re doing, we’re doing correctly. As if there is ever such a thing.
We’re in our late 20s.
Like, closer to 30s than any of our Botox would show.
And even in our aging years, we’re still asking each other for validation and assistance to get to know our own bodies. We seek confirmation for the things we like and don’t like and need substantiation for how our bodies react to everyday moments.
Granted, the only reason I go to yoga is so that someone can tell me that however I’m stretching, I’m doing correctly, but at what age did we lose our sense of self?
For something so personal, pleasure can be the most liberating and confidence-building activation you can grant yourself.
I joke that my official sex journey began in 2021, when a person I was dating told me I had a smelly vagina. Little did I know, my exclusive partner had other exclusive partners, if you know what I mean. We’ll talk about that some other time.
In unraveling the intimate desires for another and the lack of respect I felt toward my body, I began leaning into what it meant to have a vagina, books, hormones and …. confidence to use them all to my advantage.
Learning who I am has been the best decision I’ve ever made.
Join me as we unravel what it means to create your own pleasure chest.