One of the hardest things in my life is letting things go.
For most of my life I held grudges and didn’t forgive. I allowed situations and subjects to take over how I felt about my life and how I felt about new people coming in.
Letting go isn’t for other people. It’s for you.
I sort of grew up always believing that you had to hold grudge because it gave me control to make decisions that protect. Keep me safe. Secure my stable life.
It causes the opposite.
Your job on this planet is to experience as much as you can. If something happens, it’s usually because the universe projected your reflection – thoughts and feelings included – to you.. Part of that is to listen to your intuition and the other part is to trust yourself to handle whatever comes your way.
You can’t control what other people are going to do and what they’re going to do to you.
What can you do?
Set boundaries.
Get clear on your values.
Then act on both.
It sounds weird, but part of it is also deciding where people should be in your life; not everyone should get access to you at all times of the day and night. Set your friends and family into boxes and decide how much access they get to you and when.
People will take everything from you and it’s not even their fault. They’re going to keep going and asking you to help them if you continue to give yourself over without realizing how full (or empty) your own cup is.
When I started seeing a therapist, I was given an assignment to do just that. I filled my sheet to the brim. It was incredibly overwhelming. Believe it or not, my intern (whom I had known for 2 months) received more of a priority than my mother.
Mind blown.
Don’t be upset with yourself if that’s how you’ve always lived your life. The beauty with that is that you can start today to make a change and achieve anything you want and anything you’re hoping for.
Now.